A woman removed her sister-in-law from her bridal party after the latter woman — the sister-in-law — posted an unflattering picture of the bride-to-be in her wedding dress on social media without the bride’s approval.
A psychologist plus many Reddit users said the woman was right to remove the sister-in-law.
“AITA for kicking my SIL out of my bridal party for posting a pic of me in my wedding dress??” asked a Redditor named “dressofmydreams” in a July 18 post on Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit.
In the post, the woman, 27, said she got engaged to her 34-year-old fiancé right before the start of the COVID-19 pandemic — and that her wedding had been delayed frequently.
A Reddit user was praised for taking the steps to remove her sister-in-law from her bridal party after the sister-in-law posted an unflattering picture of the bride in her wedding dress. (iStock)
“I could understand, so I agreed,” she said.
She later wrote that the two had “no real relationship,” but that previously, they had been “cordial” toward each other.
However, the bride-to-be quickly came to regret this decision, as her sister-in-law “has been nothing short of a nightmare.”
The sister-in-law also apparently took extra time at the makeup and hair consultation, causing the new bride to be charged extra for the time.
A Reddit user found the “dress of her dreams,” but she did not fit into it. Instead of helping the bride through that disappointment, the sister-in-law posted a picture of the bride “ugly crying” at the store, the post detailed. (iStock)
She posted about it on social media.
“When I got home that night I noticed on my SIL’s Instagram that she has posted a picture to her Instagram of me in the dress ugly crying, and I was absolutely livid,” wrote dressofmydreams.
“My fiancé has already seen the Instagram picture and I am devastated, he was not supposed to see me in the dress until our wedding day and I know so many more people have seen it,” she added.
“My mother has called me and told me that even though she understands, I lacked compassion and have severely hurt my SIL’s feelings,” the bride wrote.
“She asked if I could find it in my heart to forgive, but I told her [that] even if I did that, I still would not include her in my party,” wrote dressofmydreams.
The bride wrote, “When I asked why the picture was taken in the first place, he said she just wanted to capture the start of my ‘fitting into the dress’ journey.”
Then — “I told my brother she was not getting back into my bridal party, which he understood, but when I mentioned she could not attend my wedding, he stated that if that were the case [then] he would not come either,” she added.
Traditionally, a bride does not show her wedding dress to her husband until the day of the wedding — something a Reddit user claimed her sister-in-law spoiled. (iStock)
A psychologist told Fox News Digital that the situation is complicated, and that she is not sure the sister-in-law understands the severity of what she did to the bride who shared her story on Reddit.
“We’re assuming she’s aware of the problems she’s caused, but does she understand that she caused hurt feelings? These days we can’t assume.”
Looking ahead, Borba noted that the sister-in-law and the new bride likely will see each other at a variety of family gatherings.
“The only way the bride can find out the SIL’s agenda is to reach out,” she said.
Added Borba, “She also can let her brother and mother know she tried.”
Reddit users largely agreed with Borba — as well as with the bride’s decision to remove her sister-in-law from the wedding party.
Reddit users declared that the bride-to-be in the drama shared on social media was “not the a–hole” in this wedding situation. (Tiffany Hagler-Geard/Bloomberg via Getty Images)
“You are so NTA, but they (or anyone else who thinks what SIL did was OK) are,” the same user added.
Another commenter theorized that the sister-in-law was jealous of dressofmydreams and was trying to “subtly sabotage your wedding.”
“I wouldn’t put it past SIL to wear a lacy white dress,” wrote Paevatar.
“Have a wonderful wedding!”